Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Why a Married Man Loves His Mistress More Than His Wife?

S.P.I.C.E spoke to Gwen, an attractive woman in her late 30s, who is a mistress involved with a married man for the last 5 years. She offers a fresh perspective on lessons that married women can learn from the mistress. Enjoy our latest confession series straight from the mistress's mouth. 

I supposed one cannot really control affairs of the heart - The heart wants what the heart wants. 

I never set out to be with a married man (MM). Growing up in a religious upbringing, in a wholesome close-knitted family, I was raised as a well-adjusted individual in a loving environment. I am what many would consider a 'highly educated' woman, with a well-paying, stable career. I have my own apartment, car, cash & investments. In short, I consider myself an intelligent, independent and established working woman, in no need for a man to support me financially or socially. 

We started as friends, chatting and laughing. The attraction, although undeniable, was kept at bay. Soon, the friendship turned into a flirty date, which turned into physical touching, which turned into a night of passion, which turned into, what it is today, together still, living in sin for more than 5 years. 

During these time, I've lost many opportunities of being with other eligible, single men because I was so in love with my MM. I could not go beyond a few dates without getting bored and missing my MM. No other man could fulfill me like he can. His unavailability was his greatest attraction. 

Initially, there were a lot of conflicted feelings of guilt. Looking at my friends getting married and eventually having babies, also made me realised how much I've sacrificed for him. Finding support from friends was also almost non-existent. Looking online was worse, with articles after articles telling me that this is a dead-end, toxic relationship, no future, don't be the homewrecker, think about his wife and children, you are only getting crumbs of his time, leading half a life, you will never be his wife, if he does leave her and marry you, be prepared to get cheated by him again because what goes around comes around.... 

I was devastated, confused and almost went into depression because of this whole sordid affair. I was constantly crying, and he was not there to catch my tears. On and off again, I would cry for his attention, demanding to be no. 1 in his heart..breaking up, then he would beg me to come back with empty promises and we'll make up and the whole cycle would repeat itself again and again. This went on for the first two years. 

On the third year, I decided to stop playing the Marty. There's always a choice, and if I decide to live my life with him, I'm going to look at the positive side of being the seductress, the mistress, the one that every woman hates. What I'm going to write about, may be uncomfortable to some, due to their moral compass. It will not be popular with women, especially married women. But I am going to write about WHY A MARRIED MAN LOVES HIS MISTRESS MORE THAN HIS WIFE. Perhaps, this is a way of justifying my poor judgement and immoral actions, as all cheaters do. Or perhaps, the married partner could *gasp* learn a thing or two about being a supportive, loving pillar for the man who is supposedly the love of her life. 

Why he loves his mistress more than his wife
1. I make him feel respected as a man and wanted in every aspect of his life. 
2. I never reject him for sex
3. I cook his favourite dishes
4. I get to share in his secrets, his deepest desires, his aspirations and darkest fears
5. I don't ask for anything in return, except his love
6. I don't have to argue with him over joint finances, household responsibilities or children matters
7. I don't need to nag at him
8. I praise him constantly
9. I make him laugh
10. He misses me even when he is with you
11. He thinks of every ways to pleasure me
12. He wants to be in bed with me, even when he is with you on your birthday
13. He splurges expensive gifts on me because he wants to, and not because I ask for it
14. I make him feel alive and young again
15. Although I am alone most of the time, I am not lonely with his constant texts and late night calls
16. He unabashedly tells me how much he loves me, more than to you
17. I have my own social circle and career, and don't have any expectations on him
18.I may get 'crumbs of his time', but it is quality time that we spend focused on loving each other
19. Being the forbidden fruit is my greatest allure
20. I give him the best orgasms he has ever experienced
21. I take pride in the way I look, and groom myself for him
22. I can melt him with my tears
23. I always have his interest at heart
24. I fulfill his desire for erotica, mystery, role play and adventure
25. The best part, I can leave the cleaning up and taking care of him when he is old and sick to you

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  1. I'm involved in the BDSM lifestyle and found my ideal man the perfect loving Master. Then I found out he was married, I was so devastated I cried for days, stopped eating, and was completely depressed. We still text and talk on the phone a lot but I've told him countless times I will never be his lover (we never even had sex yet.) He understands and wants to be in my life as a financial benefactor claiming he loves and wants to better my life. Does this mean he loves me?

  2. Yes it does. Why aren't you two having sex???

  3. You are a dumbass to try and justify the situation. You are a piece off ass and a way for the idiot to escape the real world. You are nothing more nothing less..that's all you will ever be . you have to have some issues to be willing to demoralize yourself and have no respect. People like you deserve what you are getting. .you will always be the other woman and a piece of ass and that's it. Good luck to you.

    1. I actually think she's a smart woman and what she Says is very real. Not only will she help out women who are looking to be mistresses to but she is also helping wives hold on to the men they love.

  4. Wow annonymous,what gives you the rite to judge someone else and call her piece of have real anger,you should deal with it before commenting on people

  5. I can' t believe how STUPID women can be! If he loved the mistress more then the wife, or at all for that matter, she wouldn' t be a mistress. That list should be titled, "Cozy lies for pathetic women". Have some self respect! Here's what's special about a mistress, NOTHING!! You've made yourself inferior to another woman...WTF? Who want's second place? I can't imagine being number 2, it's degrading.
    My dad had an affair that lasted 8 yrs with one woman. She'd been waiting for him to leave my mom for 7 of the 8 yrs. She decided my mom needed to sign the papers and set my dad free. Of course Ms. Mistress believed the lies my dad told her, which resulted in her looking & feeling like dumbass of the year! She tells my mom, my mom read this woman so bad, I felt bad for her, then my mom tells her she can have him. She calls my dad home, but didn't tell him his skank was there. Dad pulls up to see his wife, daughter, & mistress waiting for him. He's shocked, and the 1st thing out of his mouth is, "Baby I'm so sorry, please let's talk about it". Mom says, "Get your shit so your whore can take you home". Now he's crying, and Ms. Mistress is confused. She says, "You said you love me, you chased me, blah, blah, blah. And that's when he LOST it! He called her everything except a child of God. Told her no man would leave a good woman, for one like her (ouch), then accused her of ruining his family because she was jealous. Ms. Mistress learned that day that their love affair was based on lies. When she was leaving, she asked my dad why he'd been lying to her all these years, and if he loved his wife so much why was he with her. His exact words: "You knew I was married, we were both lying the whole time".
    It's been 2 yrs since then. My parents are in the process of divorcing, but I think the mistress is paying a bigger price then my dad. They never got back together, since my dad hates her for exposing him. And I made sure EVERYONE knew what trash they both are, which resulted in the mistress losing friends, her reputation, etc. All the years this tramp wasted trying to take someone who didn't belong to her, would've been better spent finding a man who would put her 1st. Now she's left with nothing but heartache, or karma depending on who you ask.

  6. Wow! You are no one to judge anyone. You're not God! You sure don't have respect even for your self. Worry about yourself and not others!

  7. i have feelings for someone, im 20s and hes 60s. i knew hei was married and still is, after getting to know that hes treats me well and respects me and makes me laugh, the more feelings i have for him continues to grow. i love him and would not let him out of my sighht.too bad we only see each other once a week, would love to see him more.

  8. Gee..I'm a mistress and I love it! I have time for myself to do anything I please and don't have to bother with wifely chores. The sex is fantastic! It doesn't matter to me that he has a wife: let her do all the chores and try (lol) to keep him in check. He gives me all the loving I need in everyway. We spend vacations together overseas and I have him all to's enough for me. I don't have to worry about finances etc.let her do that. No, I don't want him for myself, I love my independence too much! I have the best of both worlds, and everybod's happy!

  9. Being a prostitute is better than be a mistress.

  10. sometimes, married man really loves the mistress more than his own wife.I'm in that situation, I cannot believe that my husband is breaking it to me gently, I wish he could tell it to me straight but somehow I am good with him not telling it straight away cuz I know either way it will hurt me badly. It's just now that I realized how i really let our marriage fall apart for the past 8 years out of the 14 years marriage, honestly, I am partly guilty of it,letting many nights slip to years of almost no-sex life for us. I know to myself that if it will only take a word or two "we're done" he would have already left. I understand it's only because divorce is not easy that's why he's still with me,but to think that at night as he lie down on our bed his heart and mind are on his damn mistress. I wish that I can turn back time but upon writing this, I am tired of crying.I won't file for divorce,if he does I will make sure not to sign it so they'll have to be "cheaters" for the rest of their lives together.


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